a mindset
BELIEVE IN YOUR ENOUGHNESS >>
I am a work in progress. We all are. But I happen to know what to work on, which is a bit of a magical mindset. I know what needs to change. My biggest fault is that I think I am not enough. And I actually think this is a normal state of being. I think that no human with any amount of sensitivity and feeling actually lives in a state of enoughness.
Correction, thought. Years of doing takes some undoing. But the more I understand myself, the more I realize I am enough. Egocentric? Nope. Knowing you are enough is actually not so difficult. I like to think I’m a logical girl. So, I do the math on myself. I am successful, independent, sorta funny, fit over 40, a good friend if you don’t ask me to cook for you, and I have a kick ass shoe collection to boot. Most importantly, I am a pretty good mama. Therefore, my logic tells me I qualify.
After doing the math, the next step is a bit more difficult: understanding. Understanding that living in a state of enoughness is non-discriminatory is a harder concept to grasp. It is there for the taking, and anybody can have it. Soooo, what am I waiting for? I’ll need to peel back a few ugly layers and understand why I watch this blissful state from afar rather than participate in it. Why have I never allowed myself to sit and breathe in this beautiful splendor?
Here is what my problem actually was: I was constantly waiting for approval and affirmation from others. Once I realized that basing my self-worth on anything other than my own actions, thoughts, and opinions is just plain stupid, I finally began to grow. I am still a work in progress, but it is with a growth mindset. It turns out that I’m ready for this not-so-difficult thing after all: believing. Logic is easy. Love isn’t. Self-love is the hardest of them all. With awareness and understanding comes belief. And with belief comes easy breezy enoughness.
a message
DEAR DAUGHTERS >>
I hope I teach you to be strong.
Strong enough to speak with confidence, protect what you love, and move heavy objects without help!
Be cautious and safe because the world is scary.
Be daring and spontaneous because the world is calling!
Stand up for yourselves and for who and what you believe in.
That is never wrong. Never.
Be kind. Not just to others, but to yourselves.
Be independent because you don’t need anyone.
Be connected because we are all better on this earth together.
Be fierce and gentle.
Fight. Fight hard for anything that moves you to smile, tremble, or cry.
That means it’s worth your best shot.
Be loving and don’t be shy about saying it because one day it is too late.
Most importantly, be selfish. Yes, be selfish with your worth.
For you, my daughters, are worth more than you’ll ever know and it is my sacred job to help you grow into women who feel this.
#daughters #loveyou
a memory
THIS GIRL THAT GIRL >>
THAT GIRL, she is fierce. She expects. She battles. She’s strong.
She runs. She’s quick. She succeeds. She trains. She believes.
THIS GIRL, she is fierce in her expectations of her life. She battles herself daily.
She has a strong heart. She runs two steps forward and one step back.
She’s quick to laugh and also to cry. When her fears don’t overwhelm her, she is successful.
She trains her mind to see light and not dark.
She believes in her ability to love.
SAME GIRL.
#reflection #outsidein #insideout
a mantra
